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嘿,大家好,我是Yoshi。今天又來跟各位聊找女朋友的話題。不過今天不跟各位聊日本女生了。因為說真的,一直聊日本女生,我覺得也沒什麼意思。基本上之前的兩期影片,我覺得已經說的比較周全了。就安下來,基本就是看自己各位的緣分了。緣分這個東西你又沒有辦法強求。

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对吧你即便对日本女生再了解啊

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这个也是要看缘分的嘛

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对吧

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那我今天来跟各位聊一下

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那个就是作为华人啊

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在日华人

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除了日本女生之外

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如果你想找女朋友的话

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呃就是我有哪一些那个经验跟心得跟各位分享的

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今天跟各位来聊聊这个话题吧

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啊首先先告诉各位一点自己的个人隐私啊

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就是我我因为看到经常有观众说想

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想听听我自己个人的这个情史吧

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说真的

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我觉得这个是蛮

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蛮隐私的一个话题啊

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其实我这个是

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我是不愿意去去分享这些东西的

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只是说可能

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在不同的影片里啊

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多多少少会透露出一些吧

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但是你叫我

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就是专门拍一个影片

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来介绍自己过往的情史

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这个我是不愿意的

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那我今天透露给各位朋友

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一点内容吧

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就是我曾经是台湾女婿

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我跟台湾是有一段姻缘的

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只是现在不是了

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那之后也有过

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又有过几段台湾的情史

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就是说我跟台湾

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真的还算是蛮有缘的

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我现在是属于单身状态

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也不是像一些观众朋友

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觉得好像我是不是

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一直在找女朋友

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或者又是怎么样

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其实不是

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我是属于主动单身

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就是说到了这个年纪

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你叫我再去全身性的去

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去追一个女生

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或者去投入一段感情

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我觉得自己

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怎样说

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提不起那个很浓厚的兴趣

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说真的

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现在觉得自己已经不是年轻的时候

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所以现在就喜欢早点轻松的

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对吧

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早点乐子

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早点轻松的

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那定期的就去

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泰国或者越南

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夜生活去

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去潇洒一下就好

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就目前为止我是这样的状态

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至于今后要不要再

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找女朋友结婚什么的

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那今后再说吧

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至少目前为止没这个打算

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那很多朋友啊

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刚来日本的时候啊

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可能会有一个怎样讲

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我觉得有一个不太不太实际的一个想法

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很多人就是说来到日本就觉得很

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就刚来的时候会比较厌恶啊

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找自己国家的那个女朋友

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同一国的女朋友

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对吧

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比如说台湾男生可能刚刚过来

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也不想找台湾女生

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然后中国男生过来也不想找中国女生

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对吧

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就对自己国家的女生会比较有点那种排斥感

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所以说来到这边都想去找其他国家的

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对吧

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尤其想找日本当地的找日本女生

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其实包括我自己也是这样

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我自己刚来日本

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那差不多10年前

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我刚来日本的时候也是一开始

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就比较反感去再去找中国的女朋友

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对吧

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但后来我到现在为止

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我发觉其实不要有大家不要有这种想法

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呃这个就变成一种偏见了嘛

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对吧

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因为找女朋友这个东西

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我觉得你没有必要去把自己框死

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我一定要找哪一个国家的

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对吧

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就是说真的还是要找那个价值观

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何的来的

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对吧

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性格可以互补的

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能在日本这边啊

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就是两个人在一起

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能找到一个共同目标

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能这样就是好好生活下去了

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这个才是最重要的吧

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你不是说哪一个国家的就一定好

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哪一个国家的就一定不好

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对吧

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这个没有必要去把自己给框死

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那其实说真的来日本这边的留学生啊

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我发觉可能跟那些在欧美国家的中国留学生有些不太一样吧

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因为我当然欧美国家我也没有去留学过

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对吧

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我只是听一些朋友啊

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或者一些熟人跟我讲的

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说在那边有很多中国留学生啊

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就是刚一到就开始

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就是说很频繁的搞那种男女关系

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对吧

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有时候还让人觉得会有些比较混乱一点

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就是啊

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今天今天换这个女朋友

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明天换那个女朋友

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丁坛会有这样的事情发生

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对吧

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那当然我自己自己没去过

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我没体验过

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我只是听说啊

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我只能说在日本这边

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好像这样的状况啊

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真的是不太常见

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你说完全没有呢

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肯定也是不可能的

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对吧

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也是有这样的人的

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乱搞男女关系的

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但是普遍来讲

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在日本这边的语言学校也好

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大学也好

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这个留学生啊

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乱搞男女关系的

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就就就至少我是没有听说过

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我自己认识的人

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或者我我我以前那些同学里面没有这样的人

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所以我觉得可能是

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是不是来日本这边的学生啊

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本来就比较本分一点

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另外喜欢日本的

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人啊很多可能他性格方面

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包括他一些认知方面可能也相对来说啊

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跟那个日本人会比较接近点

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日本总体来说就是一个比较

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比较性冷淡或者说是

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比较低欲望的一个社会吧

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对吧所以来这边的外国人好像普遍也

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也都带点这种特征我发觉

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就是没有说特别积极的去去搞那种男女关系

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当然我觉得就是说

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作为留学生过来

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我我也是不建议就是你刚来就急着去找女朋友什么

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因为我觉得都不稳定

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因为刚过来的人啊

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大家都对整个日本啊

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不是太了解

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对吧

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很多东西都是以前在自己国内听说的什么

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都没有深刻的体验过

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日本到底是一个怎样的一个国家

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就是说我觉得至少在这边要待个一年两年之后

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才比较适合去找女朋友或者找男朋友

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因为这个时候你基本对日本这个社会

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大体的已经有一定的了解了

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而且你也基本上就是你一年两年待下来

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你也知道自己真正想要什么

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对吧

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就是说你是打算在这边留学之后回国找工作

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还是打算留在日本发展

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你基本上自己也能拿定主意了

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对吧

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然后同样的你去找的对象

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如果他也是在这边待了一两年

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至少待了一两年的话

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对吧

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你也能大概了解他今后的动向

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对吧

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就是说你不然你上来

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急着去找那种男女朋友

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最后你们两个可能当中有一个人

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是不打算留在日本的

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可能他读完书就要回去的

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或者说

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有的人可能读到一半就退学的

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对吧

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这样的情况还是蛮多的

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所以不稳定

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没有必要去急着找

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而且就是说

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读书期间说真的

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谈恋爱我个人觉得不是太合适

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说真的

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因为为什么就会影响到你的学业

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因为很多人过来不仅要读书

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对吧

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还要去打工什么

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平时就已经够累了

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然后找男女朋友

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当然如果说双方都是

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男生女生都是比较懂得体谅对方的

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就是说可以相互依靠的

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对吧

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相互支持的

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那当然是好事

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对吧

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但是这样的其实不多

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对吧

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只要有一方

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就是给对方经常带来那种负面情绪的话

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其实是影响很大的

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因为在异国他想打拼

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本来就不容易

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对吧

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不断的要调整自己的心态

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要鼓励自己

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然后这个时候

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你身边又有一个人

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他不断的给你灌输负面情绪的

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对吧

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比如说整天对你发牢骚

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发脾气的这种

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那对你的影响就非常热烈

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非常糟糕了

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所以说我个人觉得读书期间

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男女朋友不是太合适

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说真的

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当然如果说你真的有缘能遇到

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就像我说的

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你们两个之间有共同的价值观

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有共同的目标

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可以相互支持的

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对吧

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那我觉得还是可以的

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那我在我在留学期间啊

242
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接触过很多台湾学生嘛

243
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男生女生都有

244
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我發覺比較有趣的一點是什麼?

245
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好像台灣女生跟台灣男生之間相互都有非常大的偏見。

246
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這點我覺得蠻有趣的。

247
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对吧虽然中国男生跟中国女生之间也是有类似的这样的偏见

248
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但我觉得没有说那么激烈的程度

249
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对吧就是说比如说中国男生很多认为中国女生

250
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中国女人拜金对吧

251
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那结婚前一定要买套大房子

252
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又是什么又是彩礼要多少什么

253
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对吧这个就是说他会有一定这样的偏见

254
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对吧那当然虽然是存在这种现象

255
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但你不能说那么普遍

256
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不能说人人都是这样对吧

257
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但是我发觉台湾男生跟台湾女生相互之间

258
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那个偏见我觉得更明显

259
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似乎台湾女生好像都不太瞧得起台湾男生

260
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给我这样的感觉

261
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然后台湾男生也会觉得台湾女生很拜金

262
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对吧

263
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然后又是说台湾女生很很哈外国人

264
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什么这样的讲法

265
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我是经常听到了

266
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但是就以我自己的经验和亲身体验来说

267
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我觉得你说个别的可能是有对吧

268
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但是没有那么普遍

269
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说真的

270
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我是觉得各位朋友

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就是说在日本留学也好

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工作也好

273
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如果你有机会认识到

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不同国家的

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比如说台湾的或者说越南的对吧

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或者说台湾人遇到中国的

277
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就如果有何得来的人

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我觉得你不要太去抗拒

279
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就是说一定要

280
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我一定要去找日本情侣

281
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对吧

282
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找日本恋人

283
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然后其他国家的

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其他国家的人

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就即便有感觉在何的

286
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即便感觉有在何得来的

287
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我也不要

288
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我觉得各位不要有这样的想法

289
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因为这样真的会让你自己

290
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错失很多机会

291
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因为我在日本这10年

292
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就是遇到的也好

293
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听到的也好

294
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就是说

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比如说中国男生跟台湾女生

296
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对吧

297
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或者说是台湾男生跟中国女生

298
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这样的情侣

299
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这样的夫妻还算是比比较常见的

300
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就是说不是一个很很特殊的一个现象

301
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就是所以我发觉还是还是有可以合得来的

302
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那另外也有

303
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就是我有听说过

304
00:10:04,298 --> 00:10:06,778
中国的男生跟越南女生结婚的

305
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就是在日本的

306
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两个人都在日本发展的也有

307
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所以我觉得真的没必要把自己去光死

308
00:10:11,978 --> 00:10:18,378
我在留学期间的时候

309
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被好几个越南女生表过百

310
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是被表白

311
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不是我去跟人家表白

312
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就被表白

313
00:10:26,298 --> 00:10:30,318
有两个女生都是我们班的

314
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我们那时候专门学校的那个班里

315
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就是说基本大多数都是日本学生

316
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对吧

317
00:10:36,578 --> 00:10:38,698
就六个加上我就六个外国人

318
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六个留学生

319
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有两个是越南女生

320
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然后那两个越南女生都有跟我表过白

321
00:10:43,398 --> 00:10:46,598
那其中有一个就算是比较直接的

322
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就是有一次上课的时候

323
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他他坐在我旁边

324
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然后他就用中文跟我讲

325
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他说我喜欢你

326
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我喜欢你

327
00:10:52,258 --> 00:10:53,478
我一开始以为他在开玩笑

328
00:10:53,478 --> 00:10:55,898
而且他后来就跟我讲

329
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他说他是专门为了跟我讲这句话

330
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所以就学了这句中文

331
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我当时我是听了有点吓一跳

332
00:11:01,598 --> 00:11:02,598
不不过我是

333
00:11:02,598 --> 00:11:04,998
我是没有去接受她的表白

334
00:11:04,998 --> 00:11:08,338
还有另外一个越南女生是

335
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那次我们出去踏青

336
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学校组织我们出去踏青

337
00:11:12,278 --> 00:11:16,658
然后她就很主动的走到我旁边来

338
00:11:16,658 --> 00:11:18,498
然后她悄悄的跟我讲

339
00:11:18,498 --> 00:11:19,438
她说

340
00:11:19,438 --> 00:11:22,298
她说你觉得我做你女朋友合适吗

341
00:11:22,298 --> 00:11:25,078
我当时听了也是愣了一下

342
00:11:25,078 --> 00:11:26,478
我也是没有反应过来

343
00:11:26,478 --> 00:11:27,578
我就对她傻笑

344
00:11:27,578 --> 00:11:28,598
我又没有回回她

345
00:11:28,598 --> 00:11:30,818
她说你是不是觉得我不够漂亮

346
00:11:30,818 --> 00:11:32,678
是不是你还想找更漂亮点的女朋友

347
00:11:32,678 --> 00:11:34,738
那我也是继续撒笑就没有理他

348
00:11:34,738 --> 00:11:36,378
然后后来他说我懂了

349
00:11:36,378 --> 00:11:38,258
然后他就没有再说什么

350
00:11:38,258 --> 00:11:42,038
那还有一次是其他班的越南女生

351
00:11:42,038 --> 00:11:44,358
就是说我们有的一些选修课

352
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是很多班的同学

353
00:11:46,898 --> 00:11:47,958
大家可以凑在一起的

354
00:11:47,958 --> 00:11:50,578
就其他班的有个越南女生

355
00:11:50,578 --> 00:11:53,178
有一次就他看我座位盘没有人

356
00:11:53,178 --> 00:11:55,518
然后他就主动坐到我旁边来

357
00:11:55,518 --> 00:11:56,058
他就跟我说

358
00:11:56,058 --> 00:11:58,038
他说他书往带了

359
00:11:58,038 --> 00:11:58,898
教科书往带了

360
00:11:58,898 --> 00:12:01,538
问我可不可以坐在我旁边

361
00:12:01,758 --> 00:12:03,458
然后跟我用同一本书

362
00:12:03,458 --> 00:12:06,258
那我当然我也不好意思去拒绝别人对吧

363
00:12:06,258 --> 00:12:07,258
然后我说好好好

364
00:12:07,558 --> 00:12:08,658
然后他就坐在我旁边

365
00:12:09,058 --> 00:12:12,738
然后我发觉他就还蛮主动的喜欢跟我聊一些什么东西

366
00:12:12,738 --> 00:12:14,538
当然他这个不能算是表白对吧

367
00:12:14,898 --> 00:12:16,138
可能算是可能他

368
00:12:16,638 --> 00:12:18,438
可能他是有一点这方面的意愿

369
00:12:18,438 --> 00:12:19,058
只能这样讲

370
00:12:19,058 --> 00:12:20,058
只不过说

371
00:12:21,098 --> 00:12:23,438
我其实当时就像我刚才跟各位说的

372
00:12:23,438 --> 00:12:24,798
我当时也是给自己

373
00:12:24,798 --> 00:12:26,498
框死了

374
00:12:26,498 --> 00:12:28,978
就是说要不找日本女朋友

375
00:12:28,978 --> 00:12:30,438
要不找台湾女朋友

376
00:12:30,438 --> 00:12:30,658
对吧

377
00:12:30,658 --> 00:12:32,498
当当时我我我也是这样的想法

378
00:12:32,498 --> 00:12:35,918
所以越越南女生的那个表白

379
00:12:35,918 --> 00:12:37,618
我一律都是拒绝的

380
00:12:37,618 --> 00:12:38,278
都没有接受

381
00:12:38,278 --> 00:12:39,518
实际上现在到过头来去想

382
00:12:39,518 --> 00:12:41,298
其实当时也真的没有必要

383
00:12:41,298 --> 00:12:42,878
就是说如果真的有合适的话

384
00:12:42,878 --> 00:12:43,998
可以尝试一下

385
00:12:43,998 --> 00:12:44,318
真的

386
00:12:44,318 --> 00:12:46,378
因为越南女生啊

387
00:12:46,378 --> 00:12:47,578
有蛮多在日本这边

388
00:12:47,578 --> 00:12:49,758
是真的属于蛮勤奋的

389
00:12:49,758 --> 00:12:51,438
就是很能吃苦耐劳

390
00:12:51,438 --> 00:12:52,598
也蛮勤奋的

391
00:12:52,598 --> 00:12:52,858
对吧

392
00:12:52,858 --> 00:12:53,978
当然很多越南女生

393
00:12:53,978 --> 00:12:56,818
他也是想今后可以一直留在日本发展的

394
00:12:56,818 --> 00:12:57,318
对吧

395
00:12:57,318 --> 00:13:01,418
那我觉得这基本上就就就符合你大致的

396
00:13:01,418 --> 00:13:03,618
那个未来的那个规划了

397
00:13:03,618 --> 00:13:03,958
对吧

398
00:13:03,958 --> 00:13:06,238
就是说我不知道各位观众朋友会怎么想

399
00:13:06,238 --> 00:13:08,338
就是说如果说你来日本

400
00:13:08,338 --> 00:13:09,978
你是想今后要留在日本发展的

401
00:13:09,978 --> 00:13:10,558
对吧

402
00:13:10,558 --> 00:13:12,498
当然你找个日本女朋友可能是最理想的

403
00:13:12,498 --> 00:13:12,698
对吧

404
00:13:12,698 --> 00:13:13,998
这只能说是最理想的状态

405
00:13:13,998 --> 00:13:16,598
但如果说你没有那个缘分

406
00:13:16,598 --> 00:13:17,238
对吧

407
00:13:17,238 --> 00:13:18,638
你可以考虑一下其他国家的

408
00:13:18,638 --> 00:13:20,158
你包括越南的

409
00:13:20,158 --> 00:13:20,398
对吧

410
00:13:20,398 --> 00:13:21,778
中国的台湾的都可以

411
00:13:21,778 --> 00:13:22,958
包括韩国的也是

412
00:13:22,958 --> 00:13:27,218
只要是对方他愿意留在日本这边

413
00:13:27,218 --> 00:13:29,058
跟你一起去努力的

414
00:13:29,058 --> 00:13:34,558
再来跟各位聊聊

415
00:13:34,558 --> 00:13:36,518
除了男女关系之外

416
00:13:36,518 --> 00:13:38,478
就是刚来日本留学的时候

417
00:13:38,478 --> 00:13:42,098
可能很多人会被学校安排住

418
00:13:42,098 --> 00:13:43,778
那个学生宿舍对吧

419
00:13:43,778 --> 00:13:46,318
学生宿舍他不一定都是单人间

420
00:13:46,318 --> 00:13:48,698
就是学生宿舍更多的是双人间

421
00:13:48,698 --> 00:13:49,418
就两个人一间

422
00:13:49,418 --> 00:13:52,338
那像我当时刚过来的时候

423
00:13:52,338 --> 00:13:53,778
我那个日本语学校就是

424
00:13:53,778 --> 00:13:55,978
他是按照我们那个国籍分类的

425
00:13:55,978 --> 00:13:57,538
就是说你中国的学生

426
00:13:57,538 --> 00:13:58,818
跟中国的学生两个人一见

427
00:13:58,818 --> 00:13:59,658
是吧

428
00:13:59,658 --> 00:14:01,418
台湾的学生跟台湾的学生

429
00:14:01,418 --> 00:14:03,298
然后韩国人跟韩国人

430
00:14:03,298 --> 00:14:04,158
越南人跟越南人

431
00:14:04,158 --> 00:14:05,798
都是这样这样区分的

432
00:14:05,798 --> 00:14:07,458
就这段时期呢

433
00:14:07,458 --> 00:14:10,518
我也发觉有一些蛮有趣的现象

434
00:14:10,518 --> 00:14:12,738
我当时的那个室友

435
00:14:12,738 --> 00:14:14,338
是一个安徽的小伙

436
00:14:14,338 --> 00:14:15,338
是吧

437
00:14:15,338 --> 00:14:15,958
就是很巧

438
00:14:15,958 --> 00:14:17,318
我跟他是同一天来日本

439
00:14:17,318 --> 00:14:18,658
而且是同一个航班

440
00:14:18,658 --> 00:14:20,598
都是从上海飞大阪

441
00:14:20,598 --> 00:14:20,878
是吧

442
00:14:20,878 --> 00:14:23,878
就是说他跟我讲说他在飞机上见到过我

443
00:14:23,878 --> 00:14:25,878
我去洗手间的时候他见到过我

444
00:14:26,878 --> 00:14:29,578
那但是我我我发觉我好像没有见到过他

445
00:14:29,578 --> 00:14:31,378
就是我我没有我没有什么印象

446
00:14:31,978 --> 00:14:32,378
是吧

447
00:14:32,578 --> 00:14:34,178
但我们两个呢算是

448
00:14:34,209 --> 00:14:35,809
但我們兩個呢,算是相處的還算不錯啊。

449
00:14:35,809 --> 00:14:36,509
滿愉快的。

450
00:14:37,909 --> 00:14:39,009
就他對我也很客氣嘛。

451
00:14:39,009 --> 00:14:40,709
他一直叫叫我上海大哥。

452
00:14:41,109 --> 00:14:43,809
對吧?我覺得我們相處的算是不錯的。

453
00:14:43,809 --> 00:14:47,909
在可以講整個學校里,我覺得我們兩個人算是,

454
00:14:47,909 --> 00:14:49,409
算是一个模范了

455
00:14:49,409 --> 00:14:51,049
就像两个人相处得上不错的

456
00:14:51,049 --> 00:14:54,289
然后其他房间的中国学生啊

457
00:14:54,289 --> 00:14:55,649
经常听到有吵架

458
00:14:55,649 --> 00:14:57,669
甚至严重的打架

459
00:14:57,669 --> 00:15:00,049
当时我们是住在一楼嘛

460
00:15:00,049 --> 00:15:01,889
就是我跟那个安徽小伙

461
00:15:01,889 --> 00:15:02,849
我们两个住一楼的

462
00:15:02,849 --> 00:15:04,969
然后就在我们楼上二楼

463
00:15:04,969 --> 00:15:07,269
每天晚上都能听到吵架的

464
00:15:07,269 --> 00:15:08,449
就中国学生跟中国吵架

465
00:15:08,449 --> 00:15:09,489
吵架的

466
00:15:09,489 --> 00:15:10,909
然后互骂的

467
00:15:10,909 --> 00:15:11,469
还有打架

468
00:15:11,469 --> 00:15:13,129
打得很厉害

469
00:15:13,129 --> 00:15:13,889
好像有一次

470
00:15:13,889 --> 00:15:16,769
有人把那个房间里的那个家具都砸坏了

471
00:15:16,769 --> 00:15:20,609
有时候半夜三更都会打起来

472
00:15:20,609 --> 00:15:22,089
就我们两个人都已经睡着了

473
00:15:22,089 --> 00:15:23,249
听到楼上还在那边打架

474
00:15:23,249 --> 00:15:25,649
所以当时就觉得漫不可思议的

475
00:15:25,649 --> 00:15:27,669
为什么中国学生相互之间

476
00:15:27,669 --> 00:15:30,069
怎么就那么不能包容对方

477
00:15:30,069 --> 00:15:30,649
对吧

478
00:15:30,649 --> 00:15:32,489
就觉得很恶劣

479
00:15:32,489 --> 00:15:34,909
学校里发觉好像台湾学生

480
00:15:34,909 --> 00:15:35,429
对吧

481
00:15:35,429 --> 00:15:36,149
韩国学生

482
00:15:36,149 --> 00:15:39,509
他们直接好像没有说那么严重

483
00:15:39,509 --> 00:15:40,069
对吧

484
00:15:40,069 --> 00:15:42,689
就觉得他们好像都蛮和平的

485
00:15:42,689 --> 00:15:45,849
不过我这个人本来就比较喜欢去

486
00:15:45,849 --> 00:15:47,609
研究一些啊

487
00:15:47,609 --> 00:15:49,469
一些人文现象吧

488
00:15:49,469 --> 00:15:50,889
我这个人好奇心也比较重

489
00:15:50,889 --> 00:15:52,969
那我有几次啊

490
00:15:52,969 --> 00:15:54,469
我就问一些台湾的学生

491
00:15:54,469 --> 00:15:55,069
我就问他们

492
00:15:55,069 --> 00:15:55,349
我说

493
00:15:55,349 --> 00:15:57,989
我说你们你们台湾人的宿舍里面啊

494
00:15:57,989 --> 00:15:58,849
有没有吵架的

495
00:15:58,849 --> 00:16:00,769
那他们都跟我说有啊

496
00:16:00,769 --> 00:16:02,029
基本上每天都吵啊

497
00:16:02,029 --> 00:16:03,429
每天都吵得很厉害

498
00:16:03,429 --> 00:16:04,409
他怎么可能不吵架

499
00:16:04,409 --> 00:16:08,289
哎我说怎么感觉你们台湾学生好像表面上都蛮和气的

500
00:16:08,289 --> 00:16:11,089
真的很难想象你们在宿舍里面也会吵架

501
00:16:11,089 --> 00:16:12,589
他们说会吵绝对会吵

502
00:16:12,589 --> 00:16:16,149
只是说不会像中国学生那样吵得那么凶

503
00:16:16,149 --> 00:16:19,049
就是像这样破口大骂甚至打架

504
00:16:19,049 --> 00:16:20,149
这种是没有的

505
00:16:20,149 --> 00:16:21,969
但是吵架是家常便饭也是天天吵

506
00:16:21,969 --> 00:16:24,369
那后来我又去问过一些韩国学生啊

507
00:16:24,369 --> 00:16:24,909
他们也是吵

508
00:16:24,909 --> 00:16:26,649
他们之间也是每天都吵架

509
00:16:26,649 --> 00:16:28,589
然后越南学生也是

510
00:16:28,589 --> 00:16:30,629
越南学生你看上去好像他们很团结

511
00:16:30,629 --> 00:16:30,929
对吧

512
00:16:30,929 --> 00:16:32,749
他们也说几乎每天都吵架

513
00:16:32,749 --> 00:16:34,789
回到回到那个宿舍就就是吵架

514
00:16:34,789 --> 00:16:35,789
啊

515
00:16:35,789 --> 00:16:37,069
就是说只是说没有像中

516
00:16:37,069 --> 00:16:38,729
都没有像中国学生那么严重啊

517
00:16:38,729 --> 00:16:40,569
就还会在宿舍里面打架的那种

518
00:16:40,569 --> 00:16:44,309
所以这也算是一个比较有趣的现象

519
00:16:44,309 --> 00:16:47,429
那当然我给各位一些建议

520
00:16:47,429 --> 00:16:50,069
就是说刚来到日本的时候

521
00:16:50,069 --> 00:16:51,789
你情况不是太熟悉

522
00:16:51,789 --> 00:16:55,089
其实住学生宿舍算是一个不错的选择

523
00:16:55,089 --> 00:16:55,629
对吧

524
00:16:55,629 --> 00:16:57,049
因为不用你自己动脑筋

525
00:16:57,049 --> 00:16:58,249
学校会帮你安排好

526
00:16:58,249 --> 00:16:59,809
你即便要搬家

527
00:16:59,809 --> 00:17:02,229
我建议你最少是一年以后

528
00:17:02,229 --> 00:17:02,549
对吧

529
00:17:02,549 --> 00:17:04,329
你对日本的状况有一定了解之后

530
00:17:04,329 --> 00:17:05,449
你再考虑去搬家

531
00:17:05,449 --> 00:17:07,129
因为在日本这搬一次家

532
00:17:07,129 --> 00:17:09,089
那个前期的费用是不少

533
00:17:09,089 --> 00:17:10,989
有很多学生啊

534
00:17:10,989 --> 00:17:12,509
刚过来住了还不到三个月

535
00:17:12,509 --> 00:17:13,489
就忙着搬家什么

536
00:17:13,489 --> 00:17:15,469
这个我不是太建议啊

537
00:17:15,469 --> 00:17:17,649
就如果说你觉得

538
00:17:17,649 --> 00:17:20,509
两人间会对你有一定的影响

539
00:17:20,509 --> 00:17:20,809
对吧

540
00:17:20,809 --> 00:17:23,029
那你可以跟宿舍也好

541
00:17:23,029 --> 00:17:23,989
跟学校也好提出

542
00:17:23,989 --> 00:17:25,349
就是说要求你要住单人间

543
00:17:25,349 --> 00:17:28,169
因为宿舍里他单人间也是有的

544
00:17:28,169 --> 00:17:29,649
就是只是说那个费用比较贵一点

545
00:17:29,649 --> 00:17:30,729
好了

546
00:17:30,729 --> 00:17:32,269
今天的分享就先到这里了

547
00:17:32,269 --> 00:17:33,069
我们下期影片再见

548
00:17:33,069 --> 00:17:33,509
拜拜